My Biggest Problem with Homosexuality

Sermon on the Mount

My friend Keith Giles recently posted an article discussing homosexuality in the Bible. And I’ve previously shared a few thoughts on the subject myself.

But there’s one major issue that just keeps nagging at me—one problem I can’t seem to get around.

My biggest problem with homosexuality is love.

Let me explain. Jesus and the Apostles emphasized over and over again that love is the basis for everything, including every command God has given.

We sometimes get the impression that God arbitrarily prohibits things that offend him. But this could not be further than the truth! God always acts out of love, and his prohibitions always stem from love.

So my problem is that I can’t figure out how a committed monogamous homosexual relationship could be unloving. I can’t understand how such a relationship would cause harm to self or other.

Rape. Incest. Prostitution. Adultery. Philandering. It’s easy to see the harm caused by these sexual sins—whether they are committed heterosexually or homosexually. It’s even easy to see the harm caused by demonizing homosexuality. But I can’t think of any harm caused by committed monogamous homosexual relationships.

I can’t see how such a relationship goes against love of God or love of neighbor. To put it another way, I can’t see how it violates the Golden Rule—“treat others as you would want them to treat you” (Matthew 7:12, NET). And since the Golden Rule “fulfills the law and the prophets,” there can be no prohibitions that are not based on it.

So here’s the ultimatum given to us by Jesus and the Apostles. Either homosexuality does violate the Golden Rule (and we just haven’t been able to figure out why), or homosexuality is not a sin.

What do you think?